Maybe whatever “It” is isn’t that important, but always know that you are.
If there is a habit, pattern or limiting belief you can’t seem to overcome, you may have consciously or subconsciously accepted it as a fact of life. It may not seem that important, but if you decide to give it one more try, how could it improve your life or the way you view yourself?
Let’s take a look at a possibility. A client we will call Sandra, was living with an undercurrent of anxiety.
She blamed it on her challenge and frustration with completing projects and even simple routine tasks.
She had tried “everything”, up to and including hiring a coach to help her with focus and productivity. She was convinced there was no choice but to accept things as they were....
So exactly what the heck defines a “nice normal family” anyway? In your case dysfunctional or toxic may well be the only norm you’ve ever known!
This time of year you are faced by bubbly friends and co-workers, excited about plans with family. You do your best to put on a happy face since their enthusiasm only serves to amplify your sense of dread.
So how do you navigate and sanely survive the holidays?
It all depends on your situation:
1. The sense of obligation may make you go, in spite of your better judgment.
2.You may be among the brave who have found a way to gracefully bow out, but feel you’ve done something wrong.
3. You might be languishing in guilt or shame, because the holidays are a painful reminder that you chose t...
The devastating emotional impact of ferocious storms, fires, floods and earthquakes can leave us in an indescribable state of despair.
So where and how do we begin?
At times like these the idea of tapping may not seem appealing, even though we know it can help. So be gentle with yourself, and consider beginning with one of the two silent options suggested. Going through the process with eyes closed should improve the calming effect.
Touch and Breathe: Beginning with the Side of the Hand (SH), apply gentle pressure and slowly take a nice deep breathe in through the nose, out through the mouth. Repeat the process at each point. Repeat as many times as you like. Remember, eyes closed.
So somewhere in your life’s journey, you witnessed or experienced some things that left you feeling socially anxious or awkward. Or perhaps you are among those who feel it has just been that way all your life, and that is possible. The important thing to know is that whether it is the former or the latter, you can overcome the challenge!
Life happens and our body and mind (especially our sub-conscious) remembers and reacts and responds in unpleasant or bothersome ways, in an effort to protect us. If that sounds strange, know it is true – but that is for a different article. For those who feel the issue has always been with you, it is possible you have inherited it. That too may sound strange, but even if that’s the case you are not stuck...
When we think of Intelligence, most of us think in terms of our IQ or Intelligence Quotient, which generally describes a score on a test that rates the subject's cognitive ability as compared to the general population. A commonplace assumption is that a high IQ automatically translates to success. In reality, success is based on a whole lot more, with our Emotional Quotient (EQ) (the measure of Emotional Intelligence or EI) belonging at the top of the list.
Actually, the value of our EQ is nothing new. While a noted expert in the field of Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman, PhD psychologist says:
“The rules for work are changing. We’re being judged by a new yardstick: not just by how smart we are, but by how we handle ourselves...
Persistent anxiety can certainly feel insurmountable, but it doesn’t have to be. If you are saying “Walk a mile in my shoes”, your feelings are genuinely respected. But take heart in knowing there is always a way.
While each situation is unique, if you are at wit’s end there are several avenues to explore. All of them won’t be mentioned here, but hopefully it will be a good beginning for many.
EFT tapping tips are below to help you get started.
In working with people to free themselves, something frequently encountered is the constant anticipation or thoughts patterns that “It’s only going to get worse”, “How bad will it be today?”, and so on. Thinking and feeling this way is very understandable but without a doubt, you may as well be sendi...
Do you begin to feel selfish when you dare to turn your attention to doing things for yourself, or heaven forbid if you decide to do something purely for the sake of having fun?
A curious thing is how often people believe themselves to be selfish, when it simply isn’t true.
The truth is that frequently we are “tricked” (or conditioned) into thinking of ourselves as selfish.
Following the trail to determine how and why we find ourselves jumping to that conclusion can be quite revealing. Many are astonished by what they discover – never having realized what made or makes that feeling creep in. What we discover will offer exactly what we need to “tap” our way to feeling better about ourselves, and improve our enjoyment of life.
Maybe you have given up on New Year resolutions because you can’t seem to follow through. Or perhaps you have felt certain “This is the year!”, only to be disappointed later.
Personally I’ve been there, so I can truly say I have felt the pain of your disappointment and frustration. One day however, in the midst of a little soul searching, the reason for lack of success clearly presented itself.
During developmental years, a bothersome authority figure had a significant impact on me. Some of it was go...