Even when there’s a heartfelt desire to accomplish a goal, the struggle between head and heart can stand in the way. Some where inside, consciously or unconsciously self-doubt can make best efforts feel like an uphill battle.
Fruitless or difficult efforts lead to frustration, disappointment and sometimes giving up. So what do you do?
Start with taking a step back and a few deep breaths. Now give some thought to what may have created that self-doubt.
Frequently I hear “I have no idea! It’s always been there!!”
Here are two great places to begin:
First tap to release the frustration and disappointment you are feeling in general.
Even though I am frustrated and disappointed from doing the things that need to be done with little result...
It is no surprise these days that most feel stressed to max and perhaps anxious almost constantly these days. And while a certain amount of stress can be beneficial, chances are if you are human, your current or typical level is working against you. The majority of us are dealing with chronic stress that takes a toll on health and wellbeing. It is no laughing matter, since it is easy to have it become the accepted norm or way of being. But seriously, while we may seem impossible to escape the stress overload, please consider taking just a few minutes a day to at least take the edge off? Thank you!
I’m offering a couple of scripts to help you get started. Say the words with emphasis! Don’t be concerned about “gettin...
Maybe whatever “It” is isn’t that important, but always know that you are.
If there is a habit, pattern or limiting belief you can’t seem to overcome, you may have consciously or subconsciously accepted it as a fact of life. It may not seem that important, but if you decide to give it one more try, how could it improve your life or the way you view yourself?
Let’s take a look at a possibility. A client we will call Sandra, was living with an undercurrent of anxiety.
She blamed it on her challenge and frustration with completing projects and even simple routine tasks.
She had tried “everything”, up to and including hiring a coach to help her with focus and productivity. She was convinced there was no choice but to accept things as they were....
So somewhere in your life’s journey, you witnessed or experienced some things that left you feeling socially anxious or awkward. Or perhaps you are among those who feel it has just been that way all your life, and that is possible. The important thing to know is that whether it is the former or the latter, you can overcome the challenge!
Life happens and our body and mind (especially our sub-conscious) remembers and reacts and responds in unpleasant or bothersome ways, in an effort to protect us. If that sounds strange, know it is true – but that is for a different article. For those who feel the issue has always been with you, it is possible you have inherited it. That too may sound strange, but even if that’s the case you are not stuck...
When we think of Intelligence, most of us think in terms of our IQ or Intelligence Quotient, which generally describes a score on a test that rates the subject's cognitive ability as compared to the general population. A commonplace assumption is that a high IQ automatically translates to success. In reality, success is based on a whole lot more, with our Emotional Quotient (EQ) (the measure of Emotional Intelligence or EI) belonging at the top of the list.
Actually, the value of our EQ is nothing new. While a noted expert in the field of Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman, PhD psychologist says:
“The rules for work are changing. We’re being judged by a new yardstick: not just by how smart we are, but by how we handle ourselves...
Do you begin to feel selfish when you dare to turn your attention to doing things for yourself, or heaven forbid if you decide to do something purely for the sake of having fun?
A curious thing is how often people believe themselves to be selfish, when it simply isn’t true.
The truth is that frequently we are “tricked” (or conditioned) into thinking of ourselves as selfish.
Following the trail to determine how and why we find ourselves jumping to that conclusion can be quite revealing. Many are astonished by what they discover – never having realized what made or makes that feeling creep in. What we discover will offer exactly what we need to “tap” our way to feeling better about ourselves, and improve our enjoyment of life.
Did you know that it has been proven that awareness begins in the heart and not the brain?
And did you know that brain-heart two-way communication is constant? The heart actually sends far more signals to the brain than the brain does to the heart! The heart’s intricacies are sophisticated enough to qualify as a heart brain.
Whether you are among those drawn the news like a moth to the flame or someone who avoids the news, these days it is pretty much inescapable.
You may think you are unaffected because you feel confident that you hear it and let it go. Whether you think it bothers you or not, your body remembers. Because it remembers and emotions are definitely inescapable, they constantly have an impact on...
pain, phobias, anxieties or other issues, feelings and emotions can define who we are and become at least a part of our identity.
Should it really come as a surprise that our efforts are met with resistances from the non-rational subconscious mind? After all change is always scary, even when it is a heartfelt desire.
With longstanding issues, the discomfort becomes “the new norm”, “comfort” or “familiar zone”. The very idea of letting go of the issue means not only the possibility of an identity crisis, but can also have the non-rational subconscious coming up with plenty of disconcerting thoughts, whilst harboring fears about what change will bring. With...
Or perhaps "allow"? If the rant includes EFT, guided and/or done surrogately on the spot by a patient, calm individual, the results can be amazing.
When children see something as unjust, no doubt there will be a reaction. It could be an angry outburst or disappointment, or heaven knows what else.
When they feel safe to express exactly what they are feeling in a way that feels right to them, without fear of consequences, emotions get processed instead of bottled up.
The sooner the “tapping rant” can follow the event, the better. This means that even it they are screaming and crying “No, no, no!”, rather than shutting them down or trying to sooth them, many times the best thing to do is begin to tap through the sequence surrogately, ech...